The Sleeping Giant, and the Wisdom of the Wand: Loving Your SOFT PENIS
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For many men, a Soft Penis is a death knell for Sexual Intimacy: it's seen as a sure sign that something is wrong.... with THEM (and their penis)
At the first recognition of a *lack* (for lack of a better word) of Erection, they STOP! They feel inadequate, withdraw their energy from their partner and the Sexy Situation, and become fixated on what they are seeing as a definite, black and white "problem" : There is no Erection, therefore, there can be no Sex.
They become so intensely focused on what they think is wrong.... they immediately close themselves off to the possibility that there is, actually, NOTHING WRONG.
....Have you ever considered the possibility that your 'Soft On' is there for a good reason, and has it's own forms of pleasure and intimacy to share?
Recall that time your Erection didn't show up the way you wanted it to? What did you do? Were you able to be curious, stay present, and share this vulnerable experience with your partner? Or did you totally shut down, withdraw, and deprive both yourself and your partner of the Love and Pleasure you wanted to share with each other?
If you are like many men, and found yourself shutting down: What if it didn't have to be that way?
What if being Erect is only half (at most!) of the full picture of Male Sexuality?
Your Erection is Yang (overt, active, dynamic) ... Your 'Soft On' is Yin (receptive, introverted) - Together, they tell the WHOLE TRUTH of You As A Man
Your Truth is BOTH Yang and Yin: Both Sides of You Can Give and Receive Love and Pleasure!
Regardless of whether you are at Full Mast, have a Semi, or a Soft-On, YOU (the Man to whom the penis belongs) can both give and receive Love and Pleasure. Each experience (Hard, Semi, Soft) has it's own range of pleasure, intimacy and vulnerability to share with you and your partner. Imagine discovering a Whole New World of Sexual Love by changing the way you see your Soft Penis!
The Taoists call the Soft-On "The Sleeping Giant", and believe that each man must learn to honor the "Wisdom of the Wand".
How's that for a Paradigm Shift? Instead of a flaccid penis, or Erectile Dysfunction, you have a Sleeping Giant! There's something thrilling about the image of a sleeping Giant, that could awaken at any moment, bursting with Big Energy and Pleasure!
There is also something that is less threatening to women about your Sleeping Giant. Some women may feel overwhelmed if you are always rock hard and fully erect. She may feel that, while she's getting the full force of your Sexual Passion, she's not experiencing as much of the Emotional Intimacy that she craves. When your penis is Erect, you are often on a Mission, focused on a Goal, and not on just being with her.
When you are at Peace with your Sleeping Giant, you can give your Woman a type of pleasure she has most likely never felt before!
Hear it straight from a Woman: The sensation of a soft penis rubbed lovingly against the lips of the yoni feels luscious and inviting. It creates a slower build of Sexual Arousal, which produces a feeling of fullness and saturation that brings the crest of the waves of orgasm closer, making pleasure more voluptuous and sustained. It also softens the emotional body, and opens the heart. When yoni and heart are both soft and open, a Woman's Pleasure Potential is Activated!!
In other words: Yum!! Make Peace with your Soft-On so we can have more Sleeping Giant Love, please!
Making Peace with your Sleeping Giant means honoring the Wisdom of the Wand
What is the Wisdom of the Wand? It's actually quite simple: The "Wisdom" is knowing the Truth of your Dynamic Nature: Constantly flowing between Yin and Yang.
Some days, you will feel vital and passionate! You will have Boundless Energy to share with your Partner. She will witness you in all your sexual Glory! - Full Erection, Throbbing Energy, Heightened Pleasure! She will surrender to your Strength and your Power! You will know yourself as an Expression of the Sun God, and be deeply received and worshiped by your devoted Lover.
Other days, you will feel more subdued: Your partner will have the chance to show you that you are Loved and Appreciated for ALL of you... not just your Yang side. She will have the chance to charge you up with her energy and passion, or join you in a more subtle experience of Intimate Connecting. This is an inherently vulnerable experience! No wonder many men shy away from it. Our society has not made it clear that a Man's softer side can be Sexy.
Guys: Your Softer Side is *definitely* Sexy ... If you Let it be!
Ask Yourself This: If you knew that you could be Loved and Appreciated and still give and receive Love and Pleasure with a Soft Penis, would you feel more confident about the experience when you are with a Lover?
I hope that for many of you, the answer to this question is "Yes!"
You may have to re-define what Pleasure means to you: On a scale of 1-10 where 10 is Ejaculating, can you experience 1-4 as a more subtle kind of Pleasure... but still let it be Pleasure?
Herein lies another of the Missing Links in your fullest experience of Sexual Love and Pleasure: the recognition that Orgasm (and being close to it) is only one part of the entire range of Pleasure!
Learning to enjoy the experience of each number on that scale of 1-10 will not only help you to take the pressure off of your penis to always be Yang and Ready, it will also help you to Fill Yourself Up on your Yin days, which can help to tip the balance back to Yang.
If you try to drive your car on an empty tank, you won't get far. Fill Up your tank, and you can enjoy the ride!
For both the sake of You and your Partner, I encourage you to learn to honor your Sleeping Giant and the Wisdom of the Wand!
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