7 Easy Tips for Increased Sexual Pleasure
Some simple, gentle stretching before making love can intensify your orgasmic energy, and pave the way for Full Body Pleasure! While yoga is much more than stretching, yogis have known since ancient times that their practice (which includes nearly all of these 7 steps) allows for a fuller experience of pleasure. Why not borrow from Yogic wisdom?
As you read these words, do a mental check of your body: where do you feel sensations of tightness or heaviness? How about sensations of warmth, tingling, or openness?
Try this right now:
- Stand with your feet hip width apart
- Interlace your fingers behind your back with palms facing
- Inhale: Lift your arms up as high as they can go without strain
- Hold the Breath: Gently bend backwards. Only as far as it feels good.
- Exhale: Feel the stretch across your chest. Take another breath and see if you can feel your belly stretching.
- Inhale: Gently raise up to standing.
- Hold the Breath: Bend Forwards as far as it feels good. No Strain. Keep the arms high.
- Exhale: Stay in the forward bend, noticing where the body is talking to you.
- Breathe into the tightness for a few breaths.
- Gently return to standing and release your hands.
Now, do another mental check of your body. What do you feel now?
It's normal to feel rushes of energy, pulsing, tingling, warmth. Overall, you should have a sense that you are more open, relaxed, and even slightly more energized than before.
Which body would you rather live in: the one before you stretched, or the one after?
Hopefully, your choice would be to live in your well stretched body. By stretching, you have opened areas that were compressed and closed. The nerves that pass through these areas can now send and receive signals of pleasure more freely. Not only does this mean that you can feel the pleasure in your genitals with more ease and power, but all of the other areas of your body are also now open to sensations of pleasure.
Full Body Orgasms, anyone? ... I'm just saying!
Congratulations: You've just taken your first step towards expanding your Pleasure Potential!
Now, start adding a few minutes of stretching to your warm up regimen, and you'll be having Full Body Pleasure beyond your wildest dreams in no time!
For some, this step is easier said than done.
After a long day at work, it can be challenging to shift gears, and let go of the office and all of the thoughts that are still racing through your brain.
If you've already done step one, you will most likely find that you are a few steps closer to relaxation than you were before.
Allow yourself to continue to notice the pleasant sensations in your body, following them wherever they go. Take a few minutes, and let them take you on a feeling journey into the soft and open places in your body.
Here are a few other things to keep in mind when you want to relax with your partner:
- Massage brings the feelings of the body up, and takes the thoughts of the mind down: Hands on Tantra sessions will always include some massage for this very reason. Trade a few minutes of simple massage, like a neck/shoulder and back rub, or even just a foot rub, with your lover. You'll both be more relaxed afterwards.
- Too much focus on the *Goal* of Orgasm (yours or hers), or even having a Big Erection can cause performance anxiety: Learn to see the *goal* as already accomplished - you are alone with your partner, and the only thing to do now is enjoy! There's nowhere else to go, and there's nothing else to do.
Believe me - letting go of trying to give her an orgasm will help her to relax too!
If you've heard anything about Tantra, you've most likely heard a lot of talk about Breathing.
Breath can be totally unconscious (like breathing all day without thinking about it), and it can be totally conscious (like practicing deep breathing). Regardless of which state it's in, it will strongly influence your physical, mental and emotional states.
Try breathing fast and staying calm.
Try breathing slowly and staying angry.
Likewise, slow, deep breath will keep you calm when things get intense, and quicker breath will help to intensify things, when they are flat.
In my Private Tantra Sessions, I will coach you in 4 distinct breathing patterns that have very different intentions and effects for your physical and emotional energy, which feed and support one another.
Aren't you usually in a good mood when you're feeling pleasure? I know I am! ;)
Practicing slow, deep breaths will calm and soothe your emotions while it also helps you to calm down the intensity of your pleasure (so you can enjoy it for a longer time).
You will feel more physical *and* emotional pleasure if you breathe long, deep and slow.
Wait until you have learned the proper way to work with rapid breathing, before you start playing with it in your lovemaking. Let me know if you're ready to learn!
4) Make Sounds
Tantricas are loud lovers!
Because they understand the way that sound helps them to amplify their pleasure.
You know how good it can feel to yell out loud when you feel a strong emotion? It's like that!
Whether it's growling from frustration, or squealing with glee, experiencing both the sensations in your body and the sound you're making intensifies the experience. It also reinforces for you that you are alive, present and feeling, rather than numb.
The sensations of pleasure join with the vibrations and sounds of your voice to create bigger waves of pleasure, and remind you that "This Feels Good!"
Afraid the Neighbors (or kids) Will Hear You? Try This: Use a pillow to muffle your sounds. Fold a pillow in half, and place it in front of your own mouth. Be sure to keep the space in front of your nostrils clear for breathing. Take a deep breath, and let out your pleasure sounds into the pillow. Notice how the sound is muted.
Practice this technique, and you'll feel comfortable Making Loud Love like a Tantrica in no time!
5) Learn to Visualize
Research in the area of Mental Visualization suggests that your imagination has the potential to affect your body at the physical level
Even to the point of building muscle mass by just imagining carrying out an exercise routine.
If you try it, let me know how it works for you in the comments below!
6) Slow Things Down
Imagine knowing how to keep both you and your partner riding wave after wave of pleasure for extended periods of time.
One of the skills that I can't wait to teach you in one of myPrivate Tantra Sessions is how to Prolong Your Pleasure. I don't just mean making Penetration last longer, I mean Artfully using many Modalities of Lovemaking to create a Dance of Love and Pleasure
As you slow down and make things last, the waves of your pleasure get bigger each time the wave subsides and rises again!
If you've never experienced more than one wave of orgasmic energy, you are in for a life altering treat! There is so much more to Pleasure than you yet know. You owe it to yourself ... and your partner ... to find out what else is possible!
Extended Pleasure with a partner is like entering a shared Trance state - It's Like Meditating On Pleasure
Research has shown that brain activity is heightened during sexual activity, and that partners can become 'entrained' with one another in a state called 'coherence.' It occurs naturally during the inital phases of lovemaking between two affectionate partners.
These Brainwave changes help the body to relax .... which Increases Your Experience of Pleasure!
Coherence can be more difficult to attain if partners are out of synch with one another, especially if the Lovemaking sessions are rushed or end too quickly. Letting go of goal orientation, breathing deeply, and visualizing your pleasure moving through your body can help bring about deeper states of coherence between you and your partner.
Slow down, take your time, forget the Goal, and You and Your Partner will discover the Bliss of Meditative Pleasure!
7) Practice, Practice, Practice!
For most of us, these skills will feel somewhat unnatural until we have had some time to practice them.
Just like anything else you have wanted to become good at in life, Intensifying Your Pleasure requires an investment of your time, focus and intention.
And like any good investment ... the pay off is greatly rewarding!
Want More Pleasure?
Join me for a Private Tantra Session!
I will help you to practice these simple skills, and
Teach you simple and effective techniques for
for both you and your Lover!
"Tantric Sexual Arousal" - Tantra Master Charles Muir and co-Teacher Leah Alchin share insights about Male Sexual Arousal and Male Orgasm from the perspective of the Tantric Arts. Watch and learn more about your own levels of arousal and how to increase and prolong your Sexual Pleasure!
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