5 Things You Can Start Doing NOW to Last Longer
And if you can't figure out how to last beyond your personal record (without the help of alcohol, or numbing agents), then why should some chic with candles and incense be able to do it?
The Truth is that while you may know what your body has been trained to do through (lots and lots) of practice
(and I mean the times when no one else is there, guys)
Your Tantra Teacher knows how to help you Train your body to do What You Want It To Do!
Ejaculatory Control Techniques work by retraining your body to tolerate high levels of pleasure, spread the pleasure through your body (so it's not all focused where it can erupt), and by teaching you powerful skills to use in the moments when you are the most excited so you can back away from the edge, and re-direct the energy of your orgasm back into your body.
Keeping big waves of energy inside of your body can (with practice) eventually begin to feel orgasmic all by itself, leading to full body orgasms, multiple orgasms, and the realization that ejaculating isn't the only way to have BIG PLEASURE!
In fact, many Tantric men practice what is called Ejaculatory Choice, or the act of choosing to ejaculate only sometimes after they have been sexual. This is more of an intermediate practice, for obvious reasons, so don't worry to much about it right now.
The Unavoidable Truth About Ejaculatory Control Techniques: While you can learn them in a short period of time (within minutes) it can take some time to Master them.
Yep, that's right, just like anything else - if you want to get good at Ejaculatory Control, you will have to practice, and practice, and practice ... and practice.
But don't fret: there are simple things that you can begin doing NOW that will allow you to Extend your Lovemaking Sessions with your Partner.
Even without the, so-called, Ejaculatory Control techniques of Tantra (and systems like Taoism), these simple things can powerfully affect the quality of your Lovemaking, allowing both you and your partner to feel more Soulfully Satisfied after you connect.
1) Learn your "I Could Cum Soon" Point
Imagine a pleasure scale of 1 -10, where 10 is orgasm. Just before the fireworks, there's a point in your pleasure scale where you are at a perfect balance of "this feels sooooo good!" and "I'm still in control". The number on the scale differs for every man. Learn to identify this feeling, and you will know when to slow things down.
When specific techniques of Ejaculatory Control - including breath, bandha (muscular contraction), visualization and pressure points - are used at this crucial moment, you can harness the force of your orgasm. With training, you can use this skill to increase your sexual power, by upping the voltage that your nervous system can tolerate. You become more electric!
Even if you haven't yet learned the specific Control techniques (which I teach in my Private Tantra Sessions) you can use some of the following techniques to reign things in at your "I Could Cum Soon" point, and keep the party going!
2) Learn to Use Your Mouth And Hands
Learn other ways to express your love and passion with your Partner. In Tantra, these are often referred to as 'Modalities.'
In Tantra, using your fingers to penetrate your partner is done with loving intention, and can integrate techniques of Sacred Spot Massage, which helps to awaken still dormant aspects of a woman's Shakti, or sexual energy.
Using your mouth on your partners genitals is often referred to as "Honoring." It is seen as a selfless Love Offering to your lover: you use your lips and tongue to send them a message of love and appreciation to their heart, right through their most tender parts.
Neither of these techniques have a goal other than helping your partner to feel deeply, emotionally loved and appreciated, through the way you touch their body. They also add variety to what can sometimes become a predictable, mechanical experience.
Variety (of Love Play Modalities) is the Spice of Life!!!
3) Spend Time Warming Her Up
It's not 'Foreplay,' it's all Love Play, but it is still true: Women need more time to warm up sexually than men do.
This might not be true in the early, hot and heavy stages of your relationship - the raging chemicals of infatuation and 'falling in love' take care of the warm up for you. But once you two have settled into a more stable relationship, she will need time to get out of her head, into her body, and, specifically, into her genitals.
It's Simple, Guys: If you know that the sooner your penis gets involved, the sooner things are over ... Get good at waiting until her engine is revved - and I mean *really* revved - before you add your penis to the equation.
How do you know when she's revved? ... You Will Know!!
That means that if you aren't sure... keep going!
4) Take A Pause in the Action
Remember that "I Could Cum Soon" point I mentioned earlier? Well, what better thing to do when you get to that feeling than to give your poor penis a break, and take a pause?
I have many men come to my Tantra Sessions mistakenly believing that "Lasting Longer" only refers to the amount of time that they can spend continually thrusting their lingam (penis) into their partner's yoni (vagina). Thinking this way is a recipe for disappointment and perceived failure.
Tantric Men have the wisdom to know when to give their penis a break, so that the Love Making can continue in a moment or two.
Tantricas also know that, while the active periods of Love Making are exciting and pleasurable ... that its in the Pause Periods that Intimacy is felt and intensified.
Remembering this, suddenly a Pause Period is transformed from a moment of weakness (in your mind) into a powerful moment of authentic intimacy with your partner:
Pause the Action, become completely still, and look deeply into her eyes. Ask her to take a few slow deep breaths with you, as the two of you feel the energy still moving in your bodies, even in stillness. Say a few genuine words about how much you are enjoying being this close to her.
These Pause Period moments of connection will surely stand out in her mind! She will remember the experience of Making Love with you as not only one of immense pleasure, but of the kind of heartfelt connection that women long for with their partners.
If you've been using the other tips in this article, adding this one will almost ensure that she will be anticipating her next sexual encounter with you!
5) Alternate Periods of Intercourse with Other Modalities of Lovemaking
Unfortunately, our culture insists upon referring to using hands and mouths as 'Foreplay,' which gives people the impression that the only place these modalities belong is beFORE intercourse.
It's all Love Play, guys, and using all of the tools in your tool bag: hands, mouth, eyes, words, lingam ... and meaningful pauses ... will not only help you to prolong your Love Making sessions, it will also help you to create fresh, exciting and memorable experiences of intimate connection to fuel your Relationship!
There you go, Boys. I expect to see many more glowing Women floating through their days, while you saunter around with a spring in your step, knowing you are well on your way to being a Master Lover!
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